Too involved

 A few weeks ago, Michael had a meeting with girlfriends dad.  At the end of this meeting, he included what I assume was an insult to me.

In a nutshell, he thought it was silly how "some" parents have gotten too involved in Michael and girlfriends relationship.

Perspective really does change everything, and from his perspective, I'm sure he is right.  My perspective is different.

First, I haven't gotten involved in anything that my kid (or his) didn't involve me in.  I determine the level of my involvement in my kids lives based on what they need and want.  Not what other people people think is appropriate for me.

Second, I think he is only not involved because he hasn't had to deal with what I've had to deal with.

If Michael had been constantly telling his daughter what a bad parent he is, I'm pretty sure this person would have eventually set Michael straight.  If Michael would have disrespected his family rules and values, I'm pretty sure this parent would be more involved.

A very recent and very obvious example.  Michael and girlfriend work at the same place I do.  Their productivity drops significantly when they work together.  They flirt, and are distracted with each other the whole time they are there.  And that's just when they are working with me or our boss.  When they are working alone, there is a lot of making out going on.  Michael justifies that it is after they are done and clocked out but it's still in the office.  As Michael and girlfriends supervisor, it's my job to supervise what they are doing in the office.  As Michael's mother, I feel that I have a right to teach him that for our family, this isn't okay.  Make out all you want outside, or in the car.  But as long as you are in the office, not appropriate.  Also, disrespectful to the person who owns the business.

From the perspective of girlfriends parents, it probably looks like I'm too involved for talking to Michael about making out with his girlfriend at work.

From my perspective, I'm pretty certain that if Michael and girlfriend worked for her dad, and he saw that they were flirting, not being productive AND also making out at his office... 

I'm pretty sure he'd be the "too involved" parent.

I don't know if I've mentioned.  I can't wait for Michael to be done with this "situation" for good.  I hate being constantly accused of lying and regularly reminded that I'm the worst person on the planet.  It's so strange to me that a couple of years ago, the idea of Michael ending up with this person was the best thing ever.  Now it's my worst nightmare.